Thanks PM, I did decide to pay for all the kids to get presents for there mom. It's more about the kids so it for the best. Made there Christmas better. As far as the insurance I think as for now I'll keep her on the insurance. It doesn't cost me any more to have her on it. If the divorce ever happens then I'll ask her to find her own. As far as her moving that I think I'm pretty set in stone on not helping her. Time for her to put her big girl stuff on. Plus I'm to busy with my new life, right!?!
That's pretty much exactly what I was thinking regarding your questions:
1) The presents are more about the kids than they are about your W. Let the kids decide and then forget about it completely. End of story.
2) I - as in me, personally - would keep her on insurance as long as we were married, but I wouldn't mention anything to her about the subject. Don't point it out that she's still on, that she has to find her own if she goes through with D, just leave her on and forget about. To me, that seems like the honorable thing to do. She's a grown woman - she knows her actions have consequences and doesn't need warnings from you about it (think about whether the warnings are for her or for you ).
3) I would not help her move at all, and would be insulted (or ACT insulted if you don't feel it, because you should) if she asked me to move. Don't have any expectations for her to ask you (as in: don't walk around with a chip on your shoulder), but you've made it clear you don't agree with her decisions (although you must accept and respect them) and you are under no obligation to facilitate them.
Originally Posted By: 3kids
Wish I could figure out my happiness. I really have been struggling to figure it out. Yes my kids make me over happy. But on a personal level I struggle a lot. I also have been struggling to figure out how to deal with my oldest. He has so much anger right now. Yes I know he is a teenager but a lot more is directed at me.
Thanks
Happiness comes from within, not without. Cultivate where it counts.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
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