KGirl - one year later con't

[Maybell]

KGirl, I want to answer you but I don't have an answer. That question about time spent with SO vs. time spent elsewise is a huge one for me too. I don't think I'm especially clingy -- I went a lot of my marriage doing evening yoga classes, book club, movies with friends, etc. I didn't always want H with me for that stuff because I needed recharge time and girl time. But at the same time, I married him because I wanted the two of us to be together, and that means fostering mutual interests, having the same circle of friends, etc. He seemed to have been into that for a stretch, and then somehow he wasn't. I don't know how or exactly when the difference happened.

I do really, really think you have been given a gift to explore how much richer your life can be without your H. Even if you eventually circle back to one another, he needs to grow up kind of a lot to be a good partner to you. (Mine too, probably...)

Can you invite a buddy to World Market for free samples?

I'm with you on the meetups, etc. Too much like homework. But I think that's me hunkering down at the moment, so much change and so much internal processing that I'm at capacity. I think with the warmer weather in the spring and my plans having time to play out that GALing will be less effort and more exciting.

Best to you, KWoman, you've really come a long way.