KGirl - one year later con't

[KGirl]

labug - I was thinking more about your question about my sister (was she intentionally late to ruin the celebration?) No, but shouldn't there be a point where people can't follow through enough times where you just need to stop including them or planning things with them because they can't be counted on? I think I may be to that point with her and it kind of s*cks because we have grown closer since BD, but at the same time her follow-through with things is very poor. How do you know when to give people more chances vs. just saying, for example, for next year's birthday "I'm sorry, I don't want to do dinner because it gets too complicated, I'd rather we all just met up somewhere during an open time window."

Claire - I've been thinking more about this, too, and I'm struggling with what is the right amount of own things/time and shared things. I wanted more shared time/activities, H wanted more individual time/activities. I wish someone had some magic ratio somewhere that was a healthy balance so I would know what is appropriate (like, if you think about the time you spend in the company of other people, doing things like dinner, watching TV or movies, going to places, etc., I would have wanted at least 50% of that to be with H or involve H, whereas 50% or less would be with everyone else - friends, family, coworkers outside of work, etc. I feel like that's reasonable to me but H would say no, too much time together and not with other people.) I think I had and still have work to do in terms of building more of my own life separate for him... but if we were to R I don't know that that's enough, I would want him to meet me halfway and want to spend more time with me than he did in the past.

Does going to World Market for free samples count as GAL? 'Cause that's what I'm doing today! A lot of the activities I'd like to do are pretty solitary and don't involve other people much. I'm trying to think of things that are more social but a lot of them sound like homework assignments and not things I really WANT to do but feel like I should out of an obligation to push myself (meetups, for example).