Let her do the legal heavy lifting. This "other job" that would earn her 3/4 of what you earn -- what is it? Something she is qualified for? Something she's been offered? Learn what you can about "imputing income" in your jurisdiction, and set whatever financial split of your expenses accordingly.
As for this:
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She also states (and has repeatedly) that this is the only way that she can see if she really wants to spend the rest of her life with me (which I half believe). She also wants me to help her with this process. ]
this to me strikes at the core of your problem with her stance toward you. She's made statements like this several times. The next time she does, I would say to her "i dont want a divorce, but if you think I'm going to sit here and be your Plan B while you do some sort of self-indulgent 'dress rehearsal' of our own marriage's dissolution, you're mistaken. If you want to leave I won't stop you, but I will then be moving on, with all that entails. "
She loses respect for you -- and therefore, more love -- every time you appease her with your silence to these petty little "tests" of hers.
