GG, I'm very sorry that you are dealing w/both your mother's situation and that of your husband's. Is your mother independent enough to be able to live alone? If not, maybe put an ad in the paper seeking someone to live in and be a companion to her.
As for your h, he is one miserable individual and he's not happy one bit. The alcohol isn't helping him take the edge off either. Sure, get a divorce and let's see how happy you are going to be. It's nothing more than a piece of paper and guess what? The issues will still be there to deal with. He just has no clue about himself and what's going on. Poor man. That piece of paper will only bring him happiness for about 6 months and then he's going to realize he's still unhappy.
I do hope that you catch a break over the holidays and can do some fun stuff for yourself. You've got a plate full of things going on and you need to take a time out for yourself.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
