Everyone says the same thing-- that something doesn't seem right. That H was always a family man and we always looked so in love. That this B came at such a weird time and it makes no sense that he walked out and doesn't even want to talk or try to work things out. I don't think there is another woman bc H isn't like that, but something happened.
I didn't think my ex was "like that" either - but he did cheat. Actually, I'd say 99% of the male WASs on this board turn out to have cheated (and maybe 90-95% of the women).
It could have been a one night stand with a hooker at his bachelor party, or an ongoing affair with a coworker (I've seen several cases here where a couple marries, then the wife discovers her H has been having an affair for 6-12 mo before the wedding and just didn't have the balls to call it off!).
While normally snooping is inadvisable, in a sitch like this, it's worth knowing what you're up against. At the very least, I'd take a good look at the cell phone records before and after the bomb drop. If he's been cheating, you need to protect yourself against STDs.
AS for the sex - sometimes it's useful, especially if it wasn't good before and you're trying to show how it could be. But in your case, if it's always been good before, then doing something different - in turning him down - may be useful. After all, you always want what you can't get.
How bout asking him to watch your son for you one night. Be mysterious about where you're going. Be dressed up nice with perfume when you leave, as if you were going on a date. Have a cover story like going dancing or to a party with a single girlfriend. Come home bubbly and smiling. (Even if you just go to a coffee house or a movie by yourself in between ). Let him sit and wonder what he might be losing.
