A big takeaway for me (and something I am definitely still working on, especially as an introvert!) is that GAL is not just for DBing. It's important to GAL when you are in a R, too. I think that being totally interested and absorbed in someone is flattering and attractive for a while... but then it's like, wait a sec-- if we don't have our own lives, how do we bring new things to the R?
I've realized how, when I'm in a R, I tend to just morph into a version of the person I'm with. My bf before H was really into indie music. So, I was too. But he hated trying new or unusual food, so I didn't do that. My H? The opposite. Music was gone, but food was in!
Who the heck am I in all of this? I'm still working on carving out a life for myself outside of work and my D. It's important work, and I'm glad to have the chance to do it.
