It's funny when our own "fog" gets lifted a bit, too, right? Kind of empowering.
So... I want to ask you if you are really all that shocked at his behavior? You've stopped acting like you are his Plan B... and he's kind of freaking out about that!
But-- if he was really ready to discuss your R with you, the appropriate place is not at a party where he's drinking and doing drugs while ignoring you the whole night. Right? He'd have to work a whole lot harder to get Lisa(Not Plan)B back, right?!
He's feeling the loss of you, he's imagining you with other men and not happy about it. In DB world, these are good things!
IMO, your next move is to just keep on keeping on doing what you are doing. If you go soft and pursue or even just be more available... what message do you think that would send him? Does he really seem ready or *able* to work on a R with you right now?
I know I'm being totally blunt, so I hope you don't take this post in a mean-spirited way. I think you are doing SO great, and I am rooting for you!!
