Hi Mozza, thanks for taking the time to reply to my comments!
In regard to her letter from August, I agree with the other posters, she seems to be expressing her pain and suffering at the tension and problems in your relationship. And at the end is the most telling part where she expresses that she feels you won't engage or communicate with her about the problems.
I think it is good to have some deep thinking about letters like this, but now when she is involved in this new relationship is not really a good time to communicate with her about it.
But you can think about it and how you can address these problems now, and if she ever approaches you to talk in the future, maybe you could bring up some solutions to problems she broached in the letter?
Just to go back to the previous conversations... congrats on unfollowing her on Facebook. I know what you mean as far as instagram. I suggest deleting it from your phone. The less you see the better for you. Take it one day at a time. You can always go back and look later but you will feel better if you don't. You don't need any more ammo. I know you are curious and feel like you want to know what is going on and that knowledge is power. I totally relate. But it hurts and sets you back on your own happiness. Don't let that happen.
And also it is totally fine to talk about your GAL, why not? GAL... you went to a great concert, GAL... you went on a hike, you took a dance class, whatever. You can talk about it! You don't talk about your 180s like look babe I changed for you. No. Exciting new activities are great subjects of conversation, to me they are one of the very best things you can discuss with the WAS. Showing you are having a good, exciting life and are happy. Nothing is better than that! Of course you have to discuss it naturally, not brag or throw it in their face. But just naturally excited about things you are doing if it is appropriate in conversation. Also great for them to find out on their own but fine to mention them too if it is natural. That's my opinion.
Good for you on the facebook I am happy to hear that! Keep it going Mozza!
