I read stories like Caliguy's, Shakspear's, HopeTex's, etc., and I know I am lucky to be in R with Mr. Gritty. But I feel like I have no roadmap, no idea of what is "correct" or not.
What does that mean, not even a card? Does it mean anything? I'm already planning on little fibs for when family and friends ask me what H got me for Christmas. I can't tell anybody he got me absolutely nothing. I can't tell our Ss, either. I know this much: not getting me anything for Christmas, not even a card... they'll think that is bad.
Ok I cringed and then laughed that I made this list ...
Nitty I too have always been one to go above and beyond for Christmas ... every single year. I got her an ipad last year, a nice sweater and a pandora bracelet the year prior to that, pearls the year before that .... and ya know what I got all 3 of those years ... socks ... yup .. socks. (This year ironically I received a self improvement book .... oh the irony)
In a way you are expecting Gritty to mindread ... but yeah .. he should have done something, not sure if he could muster a letter to make up for the past year, but I think we all sit waiting for that time when the MLC'r drops to their knees and broadcasts their love and remorse ... but honestly .. I do not ever see that happening ...I think Gritty is still in a MLC hangover ... he is a touch foggy and still trying to figure it all out.
Look at it this way .. he is on the path back to you ... many of us would take that gift any day ... he can make it up to you for the rest of his life if you focus on the big picture.
