There is a book called "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About IT" I read it early on in my DBing and it really was quite insightful. It explains the difference between men and women and it really helped me understand H's perspective a bit more. I think I wrote a post about it last year--maybe in my starting to get it Thread.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
