Indeed she wants affirmation and friendship from you. But you have to do the tricky thing and show her you CAN do it but you choose not to because she is not your wife right now. She is someone else's girlfriend. You don't validate and affirm someone else's girlfriend, right?
It's tricky. Let's brainstorm this together?
Thanks LisaB, I like to hear about your experience. Your story seems to match the advice of the vets. No amount of being nice and present is bringing him back.
So far, the way I've shown her that I can validate but I don't is by being inconsistent. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Inconsistency is not DB at all... I haven't cracked this one yet.
Oh, by the way, if you still have some ink left, what do you think about the letter she wrote in August?
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
