Card29 - I though of you when I read this post by Pink17. I know you struggle with not pursuing, you feel you have to be super-nice, apologize, ask your W if she needs help, follow up with a "I had a good time" text, etc.

This is what "not pursuing" looks like. And it seems to work.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2520244#Post2520244

M39 D6 D3 (at S)
S 2014-09
D 2016-09

"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.