Doing the limbo thing (thread #8)

[indigo1]

I fail to see how wanting full transparency from your W is pressuring her? If anything, her agreeing would relieve all pressure I would think. It would put your mind at ease and allow you to start to move forward. She is however entitled to her feelings if that is the real reason for her not giving it.

Its a tough spot and only you can decide what you need to heal. I'm creeping up on almost a year of good times with my W and I'll be damned if I still don't have thoughts pop into my mind from time to time. I have access to everything whenever I want.

I get the feeling that until you get this you're only hurting the cause. Its hard to be the new Sho when you have that doubt in your mind. At this stage of the game you should be reconnecting with your W, not having to stay detached.