Hey LT and job, Hope you had a good Christmas. You are so right about my looking for the "why". I think that is because I want to believe that there is more fundamental fairness in the world. That the person I knew so well just couldn't not care about all the people she is hurting. That it's just not possible for a person to change so much so fast. I know intellectually that is exactly what happened. That she is on a "mission" like job said. I even know that it is a lot more common than most people think. It's just I never expected me or my kids to have to go through it all. It just makes so little sense that because my W was emotionally stunted at about the same age as my girls are, that she would potentially do the same to her own kids. Be blind to the hurt she is causing them. I think that is the problem with my always asking why.
I really don't think it's possible for someone who hasn't had to go through an MLC to truly understand it. Don't get me wrong, I can have compassion for the hurt they must be going through, I know that for me to do to my loved ones what MLCers do to their's, the pain would have to be incredible. It's just not something I can even imagine. I think that is the reason I keep looking for reasons why.
