I thought everything was okay...(Part 2)

[MCS]

So another fun interaction with the W. She came to pick up the kids for Xmas this afternoon. Well, MCS household was in full Xmas mode, family was over, presents and wrapping paper everywhere, family all staying somewhat out of the way, but the driveway was full of cars. Anyway, kids came up and wanted to show W all there Xmas loot since they were so excited. W was cordial, but when S5 asked her to come see something in another room, she declined. Not a big deal....Then the fun started. Nothing too bad, just stuff I didn't want to deal with on Xmas

Our families live in the same general area, about 200 miles away from where we live. Anyway long story, but we were throwing around the idea to do a kid exchange somewhere up by our families. I left my plans open to go up with family or stay close to home, just because I didn't know about kids. As W was walking out, she said she needed to be back down near home for Monday morning (when we normally do the exchange) Anyway, I said I could get them Sunday night before she would travel back home. She said, well can I have them longer since you'll have them an extra day since you're getting them earlier. I said I needed to think about it, that I could just meet her back down at home since I wasn't committed to staying with Family Until New Year's Day (next exchange). Anyway, wished her a Merry Xmas and said to drive safely. She said thanks and it was generally an okay conversation (they have seemed to be getting better and more relaxed)

Well, she called me about 2 hours later (first call in about 3 months) and said she was going to travel down on Sunday so she could have Xmas at her place. Which was weird because she said she was going to have it there today, but at some point decided instead to drive kids 250miles to her mom's. Not sure why, but oh well. I wish the kids could have stayed at least at a house playing with their toys, but nothing I could do, nor did I say about that. Then she said she'd keep the kids for the couple days after that so I could stay w/ family and get the kids when I got back later in the week. I asked her if we could talk tomorrow since I had my nephew in the car with me and she was on speakerphone. As soon as I said that, she just hung up on me, didn't say anything at all.

So I guess she's angry at me?!? I guess because she wants to keep the kids longer, I don't know. I'll text her tomorrow and see if she wants to talk, but I'm guessing she won't.

This thing with the kids is so stressful, we are not on the same page with regards to them at all and if she doesn't get exactly what she wants, she either blows up at me or does something like this. Once upon a time, I'd start questioning her about why she didn't do Xmas for them today, or say they should stay at home, Etc. I'm learning to let that stuff go, but we can't even have a conversation about them....Ugh.