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[Mozza]

Thanks a lot, ganb8te. I really appreciate you took the time to give me your perspective. As you can imagine, I've been thinking a lot about that email in the last few days.

I find it interesting that several people have noted that she's responsible for some of her situation. I tend to take a lot of responsibility for how she feels and it has been part of our dynamic. I'm thinking that perhaps this separation is a necessary step for her to see who she is without me, problems included, and coming back more in charge of her feelings. I certainly know I'm learning a lot in her absence about how I make other people feel.

It's interesting you think I should validate her and avoid the hardline approach. I've done so some times since DB and it seems to do us both good. I'm just puzzled because she's in a R with OM and I've been told that I give her my blessing by acting nice with her, that I cannot "nice her back" in the M. This contradiction is not entirely resolved for me.

Again, thanks a lot.