Detachment vs. Forgiveness

[gan]

Love it! Looking forward to seeing what others say.

In my case, yes, I would say there is overlap. To detach lovingly has meant acknowledgment that my H is hurting too, and probably didn't want to be in this place any more than I did. From this perspective it is easier to meet him with compassion and forgiveness rather than anger - and I feel better for it. It also means a certain amount of tolerance and patience and not being too deterred when he says things like we're not a good match.

I'm not dealing with the shenanigans many people are and I may have a different perspective if I was. I can imagine that people could detach without forgiveness - but to me that would seem akin to apathy and is not a place I want to be.