I am just not sure that I can truly detach without a true forgiveness of her actions as well as my own to get us to this point. I read earlier that forgiveness and forgetting are two different things. along with that, Forgiveness is about accepting the past and accepting it as is. While trust is about building the future. I am not sure how trust in a WAS or anyone else for that matter can happen first without true forgiveness. I was just talking to a friend who is 7 years post D and they still are at each other throats at time.. I asked if she ever truly forgave hime (as if I didn't already know the answer) and she said no. She then told me about things that happened before the D and how she was treated.. I told her that forgiving and forgetting are two different things.
I am just wondering that if we don't truly FORGIVE, if our WAS;s can sense that (they know us better than anyone, even ourselves for the most part). And since they can sense that they may be reluctant to try and work on things.
Together 06-04 Married 10-05 She Left 10-11-14 I filed 10-22-14
