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[HPoirot]

I think you did a great job bravo61. Very composed and IMHO detached. You were noticing how your W reacted to your composure and care for your kids... but it seems you we're not working for her attention... you were just doing the right thing. Very inspirational. I like posts where LBS are interacting in stand up positive ways with their spouses. I'll do more to model your example.