New England Newcomer

[mahhhty]

Mozza - Good stuff for a rough night. A lot to think about but definitely helpful.

As long as you think: "She should come back because I made all these changes", it's not changes that will remain once she's back. It has to become you, not just the BDing you. If you knew today she's never come back, would you continue your changes? Detach until you can say yes.

I am definitely guilty of this. I think I am still guilty of grieving, and therefore am not fully committed to the new me. But you are definitely right.