Elsa in Piecing (knock on wood)

[HPoirot]

Hello Elsa. It's great that you were able to pull positives out of the night spent together with your H. I think it's even better, though, that you have the presence of mind to see what both your fears and triggers were. Did you anticipate them or only see them after the fact?

Anyway, it seems that knowledge in you made it possible for you to help get the conversation to a point where you both eventually got some of what you each wanted... you the physical touch and him the feeling from you that he's doing something right for you. For me, at least, that's why old me didn't like R talks because I felt criticized and confused and my defenses came up. When he asked, you directly and simply told him something he could do and understand to help you and then you rewarded him by appreciating it. As a man... I love that.

At least that's how I see what you did. You are inspiring me. Thank you for sharing Elsa, I'm glad good things are happening for you, baby steps, and keep going.