Onguard, nice job on keeping that confrontation under control. Very well done.
I know it hurts, W and I also put on the happy face today to maintain traditions.
I have found it easier when I commit to making sure those traditions continue, the baking, cooking of favorite dishes, candy making, with the kids, and whether or not my W chooses to participate. I keeps my attitude right, and leaves a happy memory for both me and kids. If W wants to grump, it's her loss. If you keep this up, you will find yourself being happy even without W. Then if she comes back, it's just icing on the cake.
Stay strong, keep hoping for the miracle, but plan for happiness even without it.
