Matt, Life Twists is right about one thing...you may never know the "why" of things when it comes to your wife. Please understand that what she's doing isn't personal towards you, but it's a mission back in time to the place where she was emotionally stunted, a place where all of this childhood stuff began. Yes, she's still in replay and acting out and yes, she's more in tune w/the attention she's getting from her friends because she's acting out the age of approximately 16 or so.
She is reliving the past in order to come forward and grow up and be a more responsible, mature woman. Whether she wakes up or not is something we will not know for a long time. Believe it or not, but your daughters are more mature than she is right now. Yes, they are having a difficult time dealing w/a mom who acting out, but if you continue to be there for them and help them navigate this mess, they will know that they have a stable, safe place to come...to your place. Listen, validate and let them know you are always there for them.
As for today, Christmas, get out there...visit friends, neighbors and you can always visit the nursing home and just visit w/the patients there. You don't have to say much, but many of them have no families and a kind word makes their day. It is a choice as to whether to spend the day alone or get out there and find some things to do. I do hope you'll take your dog for a walk and them visit w/neighbors.
Merry Christmas!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
