Christmas Gifts???

[mustardseed]

I think if your gift was given with no expectations then there is nothing wrong with it. But sometimes we don't realize that we had expectations until after the fact when we realize we are disappointed with the outcome.

I think I gave H a card last year when we were in the beginnings of this situation--plus some gifts in the kids' names. We actually ended up in an upswing right after Christmas which lasted a few months. I was still so hopeful back then. I don't regret it, but I thought better of it this year. I couple of small gifts from the kids (one my d11 selected on her own, the other because I found out he had gotten me two gifts from the kids and I wanted to make it even. I am tempted to give him a card, but I don't trust myself this time around to not have expectations. I think my goal would be to get some sort of reaction from him, either positive or negative, and I don't need that right now. I just need to detach.