New England Newcomer

[Mozza]

I know it's bothersome that your friends don't see reconciliation as possible. MWD reminds us that it's a personal decision. If you still have hope, stop seeking validation with them. Make it your own. Know also that it's natural for your friends to want to spare you the hurt of unmet expectations. Don't be upset at them. They won't live with the consequences so they go for the quick fix.

I forget: is there an OM? WAS who are in a rush often have something lined up, which would explain the lack of ultimatum. This being said, you'll have to explore further to know if there was one. I said there wasn't for months until I found the smoking gun: an email telling her she's like to find a way to take a break. My brain had erased that memory even though it was recent. It might happen to you.

You should be happy with your changes. I'm impressed. I'm sure your friends are too. Now your task is to integrate them in your lifestyle for yourself, not for your W. As long as you think: "She should come back because I made all these changes", it's not changes that will remain once she's back. It has to become you, not just the BDing you. If you knew today she's never come back, would you continue your changes? Detach until you can say yes.