Thanks all. Certainly not what imagined a few months back.
My Dad has done a 5hr round trip drive to come and get me so I'm now at his. Apparently my stepmum went ballistic at the idea I was going to be on my own.
Had a good chat on the drive with my dad. He called me an idiot in relation to my foot (and the wall) and doesnt understand why I'm being so reasonable with my wife or why I would possibly want her back. He also said some nice things about me and not just platitudes or self aggrandising statements - genuine compliments. This is new and nice.
Whatever you're doing, whoever you're with I hope you have a great Christmas safe in the knowledge that things will get better.
Thank you for the continuing support and guidance. Its a gift very gratefully recieved.
Merry Christmas
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress