My waking nightmare

[BklynMom]

Even though my marriage is over there have been several success stories on these boards during my time here so don't give up hope. Check out Labug or Crimson who still post on the piecing thread.

You need to give your H more space. Even more than you could ever imagine.

You haven't mentioned another woman in your post. 95% of the time MLC men have another woman and even though you behaved badly in your marriage, the main reason they have given up on it is the existance of another woman.

My H denied his GF for a year after the bomb then finally admitted and is still with the younger woman I suspected was his GF from the beginning.

Do you have any suspecisions?

If there is really no OW you have a much better chance of reconciling.

Check out the book This Isn't the Season You think it is by Laura Munson. That book gave me so much hope when I had none.

There is no way your H doesn't have doubts that what he is doing by leaving is wrong. Give him all the space you can. Don't pressure him in any way.

Focus on yourself and your kids.

The fact that he moved in with his mother and not a dude is truly a good sign.

Its great that you are working on yourself and are on proper medication now. Is there something else you can be doing to work on your mental health? Therapy or Alanon or a church group. These are things that will be great for you and also show your H and his family that you are committed to working on your Issues.

Can his mother watch the kids once a week while you attend a self help meeting?

Again, give your H space. Show him that you are bigger then the humiliation you are enduring. That you will go through this for him with grace and dignity. That a few months or a year of this can be endured for the sake of your kids and your enact family.

You can do it!