I got 99 problems but an MLCer ain't one!

[daring]

Thanks Job- I'm very torn but I think my lawyer and you are right.
There was a date set for auction but it's confusing- seems like another mortgage company purchased it rather than being auctioned. And once I called and made H call to inquire the data we received is very different than what H was saying ( he already changed the amount owed twice by looking at his credit report but not calling anyone).
So what I have decided is I'm not signing chit as far as a D agreement until I understand better what this debt means. I know that will make him mad but he didn't even have the due diligence to be sure what he's putting on the spreadsheet is correct. So this D may just sit until we have the info.

The attorney I contacted will be calling me Monday and will be able to look all the documents up. If I am at risk in any way I'll take some on and pay it but if not I won't b/c I am essentially the sole provider for the children. ( he's contributing what he is able but tuitions and activities he can't afford so I'm doing that).

What I may offer depending on what it looks like is to contract with a lawyer and pay the legal fees to get it reduced or erased based on the bank and mortgage companies' shady practices ( he can't afford a lawyer so that's why I would do it). And then whatever it's negotiated down to is his to pay. I think that's a very fair way to do it.

He seems to be spinning even more. Grumpy, impatient, stressed out. He hates dealing with money stuff- prefers to pretend it will go away. So it could be partially that or who knows what else.
I'll keep taking care of me!