Married fast? Too late? Completely stuck :/

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In these situations, details leak out slowly. It can be like ripping the bandaid off a deep wound over and over and over (and over and over) if you're not prepared.

I was told there was no one else when he left.

Then I found out he cheated on me. How? I found a video on the computer. Then he told me it was over a year ago and he'd never done it again.

Then I found out he was sleeping with someone (else), but "we're not in an R". That turned out to be a lie, he had been sleeping with her for a long time and he left me to be with her.

I asked him if he was moving her into our apartment when I left (because I couldn't afford the rent alone and told him I'd move out) and he said, "No, but do you want me to do that, so you can be right? Is that what you want?"

Sure as chit, she was in my apartment and parking in my spot in the driveway less than a week after I left.

THEN I found out they're buying a house together. With her 7 year old daughter. Even though he told me he didn't want to raise a kid at the age of 40 and that time had passed for him.

I'm not hijacking your thread, here, there's a point: WASes lie. They dodge responsibility, they hide the truth, and you may find out someone you never thought would be capable of it has done you dirty for longer than you ever realized.

Prepare yourself.

Best case, this doesn't apply to you. Worse case, you're prepared. It's a chitty, chitty reality, but it's reality. These things do happen more often than anyone wants to accept.