I agree. If that's his best effort, then it is.

And now you have more information.

His lack of what you need in a R says nothing about you but it is an opportunity to make different choices knowing what you know now.

Don't give anyone else responsibility for your happiness. You will never be truly happy doing that.

((( )))
You will be OK, even better than OK.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss