So, it's not that he lacks integrity, per se, it's just that he's kind of 'meh' as a person, in terms of the effort he is able to put forth into a marriage and family?
(though I think one could argue that [i]strength[\i] is part of integrity)...
Sounds like his dad.
So... I'm better off without him and there are still a few other men out there who do have more strength of character, and have more realistic expectations of relationships, and are not as afraid to express emotions or actually recognize that there are relationship skills that can be developed?
That's kind of what I've been thinking when I've seen him lately. I felt emotionally detached at our hand-off today. I'm not pining for him, because I don't see him as the great catch I used to. Yet, I'm still sad about this situation. Can I be detached from HIM, yet still be very sad about losing time with my D, and being pushed to the sidelines among his family and friends, and about not being part of an intact family? I think I can, today, for sure.
