I'm right there with you! I'm liberal as well but I also don't understand the whole "if you're not happy, just quit!" attitude toward marriage. I'm a pretty big Louis CK Fan but I can't watch his routines where he talks about how great divorce is and the cliche about kids having two happy homes instead of one unhappy home. What people don't get is that ONE home could be happy if both people would just try and work on their marriages. It's like people are surprised that marriages are work!
This afternoon my WAH is coming to get the kids to take them for what will be my first Christmas Eve without them. He's taking them to his mom's annual Christmas Eve dinner, a huge event in his family and one I haven't missed in almost 10 years. Normally I receive emails about who drew what name in the grab bag gifts, questions about what my kids need/want for Christmas and a few ideas for H's nieces and nephews, but this year? Crickets. I'm assuming that means everyone knows I'm not coming and they're all fine with it. He's taking the kids tonight everyone will have fun with them and get to watch them open their presents and no one will talk about or even raise an eyebrow at the big pink elephant in the room-- and H won't have to feel awkward about showing up without his wife... Because divorce is so common, kids are resilient, you deserve to be happy, blah, blah, blah... Ugh!
My salon is open until 6 tonight so I've already scheduled a mani/pedi for after H gets the kids and then I'm treating myself to dinner out. I know, I know, I'm supposed to embrace these "breaks" away from the kids, right? Sorry, I didn't sign up for marriage/parenthood to take breaks.
Didn't mean to post so long on your thread. You just struck a chord with me. I'm so sorry for what your little ones are going through. Hope you still have a good holiday today and tomorrow. You are definitely not alone out here!
Me: 38 H: 43 Kids: 2,4 T10 M6 BD: 1/14 11/14: H moves out
