Buddhist monks believe that if you are depressed, you're living in the past, and if you're anxious, you're living in the future.

While it's human nature to worry about what W is ultimately going to decide (to see OM despite your clear boundary or to respect your wishes and your M), my suggestion is to just breathe deeply and work on the now.

Which, of course, you know. And I'm sure you're working on it.

No choices need to be made now, just keep on keeping on. You are strong and patient and this will be your best asset.


ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies