Just for clarity's sake, the quotes above are someone else's. Not mine.

I agree that you can't put a boundary on someone's feelings. If that were the case then I've cheated many times over. I've been clear about my boundaries regarding seeing OM, and my W, bless her, has decided to flip the middle finger at those boundaries and is demanding to see him anyway, less than 30 days from now. She swears that it's for "clarity" and not for sex, and that may be what's in her mind, but you can imagine how much stock I put in her promises right now.

D15's pain and fear is viewed by my W as an obstacle to her getting "clarity" with OM. Addiction is the best description there is.

I'm not planning on going anywhere yet, but I do have start asking when enough is enough. I want to jump into healing our marriage with both feet, but she's not there yet. I'm not sure she has the patience to stick around long enough to work through her withdrawal. If that's the case, so be it.

Last edited by Rzrback; 12/24/14 02:30 PM.
Ex Rzrback
Me 43 Her 44
D11, D15
T21, M19
BD 9/9/2014
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