Yeah, I'm not sure what it was, but you're right I read that note from your wife about your sitch. I guess it's just I almost feel used right now. I'm definitely sticking with it, there's no doubt about that. Not that it matters now, but my IC asked at one point if I thought W wanted me to figure it out. I look back and the few times that I did see her upset, I don't know if it was about our M or the A. I remember asking a couple times and she wasn't straight forward in why she was down and I'm sure that at that point I started to answer for her or give her reasons she should be happy. I've discovered that about myself. However, knowing my W, I'm sure it was a moral struggle. But I guess you're right, regardless she didn't think she could tell me and I need to take a little ownership in that.
Okpjc, I've been reading your sitch a little but haven't stopped in recently. Hope your doing okay. It seems like you are a few months behind me. I'm really thankful that Vanilla has given the insight that she has provided for me. It's taken me a while to hone in on where I need to change. As she said, not fundamental changes in MCS, but changes that I need to develop to say the least. Funny thing is, early on in the sitch I said to my IC that it felt things i needed to work on were more situational, but I could only figure out examples of past conversations. I couldn't figure out the fundamental change, which is what Vanilla helped with. it is the single most resonating thing about myself that I've learned here and I'm so thankful to her for that.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
