Oh, I tell her all the time that she's solely responsible for OM. I get it thrown back at me that it's my fault she was vulnerable. I just walk away. My BS tolerance is getting extremely low.
So, my question to you is how is that working for you? You say that you tell her all the time and then it gets then it gets thrown back at you..
I would venture to say that isn't working too well for you, would you agree?
Dbusting says STOP doing what doesn't work. The more you tell her she is selfish, the more she will defend her position. Same as most people. Isn't she allowed to be selfish? Can you force her or pressure her to not be selfish?
Again.. Pressure, criticism and force don't seem to be working...
What works? LET THEM BE FREE....
Confident, happy, emotionally strong men are attractive to women. You don't seem to be showing those traits to me. You are pursuing her, pressuring her, arguing with her, calling her selfish... How many women do you know that are attracted to those types of men?
You need to focus on YOUR part here......
If it was me.......
Wife, I have been doing some thinking and I have decided that this isn't going to work for me. I finally get it. You have feelings for the OM. That doesn't work for me anymore. In the last few weeks I have come to the realization that I am not sure why I have been fighting so hard. Maybe you have been right all along that we aren't meant to be. I know that I am not interested in being with a woman that I suspect wants to be with someone else. I don't know what I must have been thinking.
I have now decided that I am not going to stop you from seeing OM. I have also decided that we should separate. I won't do this anymore.
