Don't apologize to W for D15's feelings toward her. D15 needed to get things off her chest and it's strictly between them. It's best that you stay away from them and allow them to figure out their relationship on their own. Frankly, I'm glad that your W is receiving some real raw insights on the pain and destruction she's caused to the whole family....not just you.
If and when W comments that she's not sorry about the OM, I would tell it straight to her that it is a very selfish thing to say and not accepting the responsibility for this horrible choice. I really do think this needs to be said to her face. You cannot afford to pussy foot around this issue.
What do really have to lose here? Other than your balls??
This is true. I'm glad that D15 is letting her have it. I took D15 to her room to talk, not to discipline but to comfort. I keep hoping that her children will get through to her in ways I'll never be able to. I just told W that D15 is entitled to her opinion.
Oh, I tell her all the time that she's solely responsible for OM. I get it thrown back at me that it's my fault she was vulnerable. I just walk away. My BS tolerance is getting extremely low.
It was interesting that one minute W was in the kitchen crying about her broken family (which she did absolutely NOTHING to cause of course ). Ten minutes later she and D10 are baking cookies and dancing to Billy Idol.
yank and bank.
Just had a talk with D15 and W; W is crying, not angry...sometimes I think that D15 might, just might, have an impact on her. D15 made the comparison about how calm and easy to deal with I am versus how not-calm my W is.
I'm just letting W stew on that a bit. Reality sandwich perhaps? Let's hope.
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Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
). Ten minutes later she and D10 are baking cookies and dancing to Billy Idol.
