Thanks Job. Ironically last night girls got an overnight envelope. Two gift cards each inside a hallmark card. He said he loved them and asked them to call him. One D was angry and thought she was being bribed. She wanted a real letter with a real apology. Other D said it was good he did something for Christmas but she is not reciprocating. I empathized with each of them and said while they do deserve more at this point he is doing what he is able. I didn't defend him but I said that really how is this not going to be awkward. It is just going to be hard this year but don't bolt the door shut on your relationship with your father. I explained they can decide what their future R with Dad will be when they are ready. I said I support them 100% and this is a process. They were upset but it was better thN if he didn't contact them at all.

I hope H doesn't blame me if they don't call or text him. I can't make them. They are too old and I can't ask young women to put aside their feelings for a man who ran away with a woman who came into our home and pretended to be a friend. I just can't ask them to ignore his blatant behavior and running off the way he did.

Ok I am just too wound up. I have to detach. I am in my home state and I am with my children and we are healthy. It is Christmas and I need to embrace the present because that is the gift. Trite but true.


M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters
BD: 5/14
Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW
D Final 9/17

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
― Maya Angelou