Aouch, that sux. I've no experience with these situation but I'd suggest you apply some DB techniques to the problem. First, raising your voice makes you lose the argument. You're very level headed around here so use that. Second, kill them with kindness. Finally, don't put this problem on your shoulders. It's on the two of them. You can listen to both, be a safe space of validation, etc. but don't feel it's for you to make the relationship harmonious. You have plenty to deal with already!
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
