Ganb8te 3 - conquering crow pose

[gan]

2 and 3 on your action list are good plans but will you respond if he initiates between now and 6 Jan? or are you only talking about initiating contact

Experience tells me he's unlikely to initiate contact. Besides, he's away for much of the time between now and then. If he does, well in my case I think it makes sense to be responsive. As Lisa said, the main obstacle seems to be that he feels hopeless right now - thinking that people don't change so things can't be different. I forgot to mention that I said the other night (in context, in a calm voice) it would be useful to understand more specifically what he thinks would need to change. He responded by saying he didn't want to sit there and make me feel bad and that maybe we would talk about it later. Maybe he'll put some thought to it and decide that they aren't such big obstacles after all...

At my parents place for the next few days. Can't shake the feeling that there is someone missing...