Second. I hope your screen name here comes from the film "This is Spinal Tap". Indeed, I hope your life and success goes to "ELEVEN" ;-)
Your house is being sold. How did that come about?
What about custody of your child? Have you talked to a lawyer? What do YOU want if this thing goes south?
The only danger I see here is your wife is moving full-on into a divorce while you are sticking your head in the hand, measuring her mood every minute. practicing the LRT, 180's and GAL just to get her attention.
This all means she is acting like the center of the universe and you are acting like one small little asteroid in her orbit. Not so, my friend. You are MONSTER sized planet with your own gravitational pull. Better yet, start showing some gravitas. WHAT DO YOU WANT?
Another analogy. She is treating you like a footnote in her story and you are accepting that role while desperately trying to get your wife to change her mind and write you a bigger part in HER story. What about your own freaking story, man? WHAT DO YOU WANT?
Another analogy. Your wife is a ruthless, vengeful goddess who doesn't give a d*mn about you or your children and you are the temple priest desperately trying to appease her and prevent her from blowing her top in a volcanic eruption that destroys all living things. NO WAY! You are powerful, prophetic, righteous and DANGEROUS mystery man who no one f*cks with. WHAT DO YOU WANT?
She is a Ninja trying to creep up on you and assassinate you. Little does she know you are proud, noble and lethal Samurai. She's about to get her comeuppance.
I think she needs to get a sense that she's really losing you, because, whether you admit it or not, she is. She is losing the father of her child and the husband who always loved her. You, my friend, are moving on. You are ready to live a great life without her. Once you start acting on that truth (and not play-acting to get her attention) things might shift.
So, no more being friendly and nice. She's acting like a flaming piece of turd. She's not just in a fog. She's morally compromised. If she turns around and walks back into the marriage, posterity will say she's a decent person. The current evidence suggests she's not. Start acting like she's a flaming piece of turd until she gives evidence of the contrary.
Start planning you own life and that of your child, in light of the steps she's taken to destroy your family.
Protect yourself and your son.
Lay down healthy boundaries.
Get angry. Sometimes, this is necessary to wake up a little and see more clearly.
You can still save your marriage, but you won't do it by trying to save your marriage. Save yourself. Save your child. Act justly towards yourself and your child.
