Hi Water,
I can totally understand the black hole. Yes, we know something is wrong. Unfortunately, we internalize it, which is prob. what he is doing.

It's a very scary place. Very sad and lonely even though we are isolating ourselves. Yucky to have no hope or will to live.

Only HE can bring himself out of it-med's and C's are assistants in the process, but he has to take responsibility for himself and his own feelings. (something I don't want/like to do.) It is easier to think that he is not happy with YOU or the M, or his JOB, or his FAM, or whatever. By him being alone, he is probably realizing that it's just geography. (name the movie!) His probs will be with him regardless of where he goes!

I still think it's a lot of guilt, shame, poor image of himself, etc. The best thing for you is to just be there and love him uncond'y. Realize that you CANNOT fix him. It is not your job nor are you ABLE to fix him. Validate his feelings, and gently offer suggestions when you think he is amenable to them.

take care! have fun in FL if I don't talk to you before you go!
karen812