Angry WAH blames me for everything.......(2)

[Calibri]

There must be something in the water. SIL texted me to tell me that BIL (H's brother) dropped the bomb on her yesterday. Similar complaints about her that H has about me (controlling, manipulative). Almost eerily the same wording. The only difference? Her H hasn't walked out on her, admits that he's depressed, and has expressed a willingness to work on their relationship. She's pretty devastated. I've been listening, trying my best not to try to fix the situation (a 180 from my list that I've yet to publish), and offering support the way she offered me support when this all started happening three months ago.

She asked me what we were thinking when we married our H's, knowing that they had the problems they had. My response? We thought that love was enough and could overcome anything. That we both that we were amazing women who could counteract and heal any demons they have from their childhood.

I don't know whether to laugh or cry. I might do both.

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Meanwhile, Christmas Eve is tomorrow (as if we all aren't painfully aware of the date) and I'm feeling pretty low. Stinging a little from H's lack of follow through to his lunch offer (which I expected wouldn't manifest). Stinging that H hasn't even inquired about my holiday plans, despite the fact that I've asked about his. Stinging about the whole thing. I know I shouldn't lose sight that H appears to be making small progress. That he hasn't file for D. That he's moved from not wanting to work on the R to "not knowing what he wants" (which, is not really better, but I digress.) It's still stings. Because I thought this would be better at latest by now. And it's not. And it blows. Hard.
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But I will have a good Christmas, with or without him. Because I have awesome plans for good food with the family. Away from it all.
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Whatever.

Onward.