barely holding on - 6

[u-turn]

The problem I am having is with me. It all comes to me forcing my hand now and acting on this.

She doesn't want to leave (has only said anything about S or D when she says I will never get over this) Though she said she doesn't want to hurt us any more.

She would leave things just the way they are. She can have it all and I can stand by. Now that I have had enough, it will be my fault. Something that I will have to deal with.

I don't want any of this, but she will continue with what she is doing.

Do I restate my boundaries (seems unnecessary), ultimatum (controlling). It seems I have few options.

Detaching, living as friendly neighbors (room mates) is exactly what she wants.

She isn't even angry with me often, just seems to want to keep OM. (do I ask her if this is what her intention is?)