Time for me to get back to GALing and detaching. I need to move on. I cannot continue to hurt the way that I do.
What does that mean? How does it look different that what you've been doing.
At this stage, it may not be terribly effective.
Since you are in counseling, it's time to address the issues you have not been able to in your DB-ing activity. You talk about cutting the "middle-road" in counseling where you are "validating" and listening. Sounds like walking on egg-shells to me.
Is the counseling chipping away at the elephant in the room?
Have you spoken to your counselor ALONE, in a private session? Have you told your counselor, in PRIVATE, that you know, 100% for sure, that your wife had an affair and that your wife is still denying it? her your wife is denying it. Ask her how to bring this up in counseling. Ask her advice on this.
Also, by the way, your wife doesn't believe she'll ever lose you. There have been no consequences to her actions up till now. She's lied to your face about having an affair and you still pursue her. Exactly what makes you, Shodan, a scarce commodity that she's afraid of losing?
I only say this to you because I did the EXACT same things you are doing, and I'm now divorced.
