U-turn, you sound like you are making progress. At this point continue to shape you life in ways that make you happy and keep you being the great dad you want to be. Assume she has made her decision and is not coming back. What would you do if you suddenly found that you could do anything? (Erase W from the scenario...imagine she's been abducted by aliens or something...nothing sinister) what would you do to make you and the kids feel happy and safe.

Maybe its time to stop doing so much for her....pouring her coffee....just a thought. She's. Made some choices. How does she experience the results of those choices if you continue to provide the exact life she had.

Whatever you did or didn't do it doesn't justify cheating on you. Learn from the person you were....don't. Aplogize for it. Feel yourself growing stronger. Not because it'll get herback but because YOU WILL GET YOURSELF BACK....peace.


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14