So that's your goal: stop living your life by what others think of you.

Buddhists say that what other people think of you is none of your business and is not to be worried over. Hehehehe.

Counter-intuitive, I know. Like DBing!

ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies