Life 2.0 Part 2

[JCred]

For me the boundary would be "wanting to see him"
I don't see much difference in her seeing OM and her wanting to see OM. Either way he is in your marriage.

I believe love works best when it is freely given. She feels suffocated which proves she doesn't feel she is free to give it...

I'm sick of loneliness, of fear, of analyzing every damn thing she does or says. I want warmth again. She's outwardly warm most of the time, but I know she's not really all there. I want to spend my time with a woman who doesn't look at me as her obstacle to happiness.

Maybe I'm trying too hard. Maybe I should just let go and let God.

Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood

Would someone please remind me why I'm fighting so hard? It's obvious she has no intention of respecting my boundaries.

Why are you fighting so hard? Seems to me that those who are most successful are the ones who stop fighting and let go.. What say you?

Am I fighting because I want to stay married to her, or because I'm afraid of having my world change? I honestly don't know anymore.

I don't hate her. I can't. I'll always love her. But I'm starting to wonder if she's not right; that too much time has passed and too much damage has been done to our marriage to repair. She's seething with resentment.

Maybe we really are keeping each other from being the people we want to be and being with the people we should be with. Maybe we were meant to be together for a while to have our children but not meant to be together for life.

I think it would be highly effective if you said those things to her. Why aren't you being honest with her? Maybe she is right.. She may even feel for the 1st time that you really ARE letting go....

You just can't force or pressure someone to love you. It works best when it is freely given.....

Take off the pressure.. This isn't really working for you.
Take your own Clint Eastwood advice.... Stop the force and let her go.. It will work much better when she comes back to you WILLING to do the things you are making her feel forced to do now...... Make it YOUR choice... Not mean or vindictive....