I do say that it's her choice, it is. But I make it clear that seeing OM and working on our marriage don't go together. She calls talking to OM as her chance for clarity and is part of working on our marriage. (Must stop eye rolling....)

Her stock answer is that I'm smothering her and painting her into a corner; she demands space and freedom, but wants it to be consequence-free.

I tell her that she's not the only one who can pull the trigger on our marriage. Doesn't phase her. I think she'd welcome that so that she wouldn't be the bad guy.

Last edited by Rzrback; 12/23/14 02:40 PM.
Ex Rzrback
Me 43 Her 44
D11, D15
T21, M19
BD 9/9/2014
Piecing

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